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Late-life remarriage: Stepfamilies make caring more complex

Late-life remarriage complicates caring for an ailing spouse, according to a researcher who is conducting one of the first known studies to focus on the challenges facing older remarried caregivers — a growing segment of the older U.S. population.

“Caring for an aging spouse is extremely difficult under the best of circumstances,” says Carey Wexler Sherman, a research investigator at the Institute for Social Research (ISR). “When stepfamily tensions and conflicts are added to the mix, the stress can become overwhelming.”

With funding from the national Alzheimer’s Association, Sherman plans to interview about 125 men and women with the goal of documenting the type, level and quality of social support received from stepchildren and other social network members, and assessing how late-life remarriage affects caregiving.

“Past research and current public policy relies heavily on the assumption that most older people who develop dementia are in long-term, intact marriages where the spouses — most often the wife — and adult children will provide most of their care,” Sherman says.

“Sometimes remarried partners and adult stepchildren come to consider each other ‘family’ and sometimes they don’t,” she says. “Often you hear people talk about ‘my father’s wife’ or ‘my husband’s children,’ which can be a sign that a family hasn’t really blended. Ambivalent feelings among family members may carry over in all kinds of ways when a stepparent needs help providing care for an aging parent.”

As an adult child of remarried parents, Sherman believes her personal experience as well as her doctorate in family psychology and gerontology has helped her approach to this difficult subject.

“When my father needed care, I saw how challenging it can be to negotiate medical and care decisions when you are working within a stepfamily context. I was fortunate that my stepmom and I were able to become partners in that process,” she says. “But among the older remarried women I’ve interviewed, there is often a feeling that they are not accepted by their adult stepchildren. Many also report that they either get little or no help from stepchildren, or that the stepchildren challenge the decisions or choices made by the caregiver.”

In a prior qualitative study of late-life remarried caregivers, based on her doctorate dissertation, Sherman explored the financial tensions and conflicts between stepparents and adult stepchildren. In a paper to appear in the journal Family Relations, she says adult stepchildren often resist the stepparents financial role, even going so far as to “reclaim ownership” of family furniture, heirlooms and other objects when their biological parent and stepparent were away from home.

“Commonly, old family and financial grievances get revisited when a parent becomes ill,” Sherman says. “And the onset of dementia in the biological parent leaves the caregiving spouse and stepparent on the ‘front line’ to deal with any unresolved or contentious issues.”

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